The Only Child Myth

But is there any science that makes the stereotype stick? "No," Newman said. "There have been hundreds and hundreds of research studies that show that only children are no different from their peers."


This is comforting because while i would like to have more children, I have yet to get pregnant a second time. Some of my worries about having only one is what about those times I didn't savor the moment, will I never get a chance again to try to enjoy pregnancy? How will my son be able to provide and care for us when we are old, with out siblings to help? Since we live so far from other family, will growing up in such a small family mean he misses out of so much that makes life beautiful? Will he as a result not value family? Will he only give me 1, grandchild? (I want at least 3 if not 10) 
I want another person to share this genetic bond with, not just my son. (I was adopted so there is this special added bit to my feelings towards my son. Not only am I his mother and love him but physically, in his DNA he is part of me. )
On the other hand, having just one child means that he will probably do better academically than if he had 4 siblings. Also if I decide to spend money on clothes or gifts as a treat for my son all of that money can go towards him and not just a fraction of it. I do not have to worry about dividing myself in anyway amongst other children to be fair, unless I want to spend time with other children.  I have time for all of me and all of my duties. There is no worry of sibling rivalry, favoritism or what ever. I can honestly say that my son is my FAVORITE child in the UNIVERSE! I can tell my son I love him more than any other child he has ever met, or will meet, or is in the world. 
For my son, there aren't really any drawbacks for being an only child. For me there are drawbacks for  only having one. So if we choose to get help getting pregnant, or adopt it would be for us, the parents and not for my son so much. Not to say he wouldn't have some advantages by having a sibling but not that many and I think it would even out with being an only child. 

Just an Update

        So we have a routine finally. Now I am able to focus on some other aspects of our lives. We homeschool but it is most certainly not the be all end all of our existence. I completely caught up on laundry on Monday, put everything away on Tuesday, including a bit of ironing. Yesterday I made hard rolls, English muffin bread, coffee cake, spritz cookies, and raised doughnuts. Inshallah my intention is to deep clean the kitchen and as  many other places as I can. Yesterday wore me out!
         My son is currently working on some subtraction. He has a science test, writing, Quran, Arabic and social studies to work on still. He is pretty antsy today though. lol

The days are going a little smoother

Well now that its back to just My Little Man and I, the days seem to go a little smoother. They certainly go faster. He still gives me a hard time about a few things but basically he is in the mode . We started an hour late but I have 4 loaves of bread in the oven and the kitchen clean from breakfast. Also beds are made.
My son is supposed to be writing a few of the names and attributes of Allah but is waisting time instead. Some one is going to bed early tonight, inshallah.

Almost done for the day

Well some friends came over for a play date and even so we are nearly done for the day. My Little Man is working on some math, subtraction, and then we will move on to cursive. Then we will be done for the day!

WOW We are on a roll!

So we are back to our old routine and its not quite 2 and we are on the last assignment for the day. A little cursive practice!
He gave me a bit of attitude this morning, which is not unusual. I was penitent as long as I could then he got it. Since then we have been fine. I just have to stay on top of him. What do you know I come in here to write this and he is already playing around instead I doing his letter As. Geese!

Back to 1

Well I am back to one after our homeschooling with B experiment. B is just not in a place where he is ready for my bossing him around. He wants to stay home and play, mostly video games and give both his mom and I a very hard time. He'll get it figured out but I think he was happy to get back into school.

I am glad. He is a wonderful kid. Twards the end I decied I was not going to stress myself out making sure he would show up. If he did he did and if not that was fine. It made me a lot happier.
Anyway monday we are back to normal. My little man got to experience what it would be like to have another kid in the school room. He liked it for the playing part but he had a little bit harder time concentrating, and if there is a tree in the yard he can get distracted.
I am relived honestly. Less planning, printing and time overall. Less stress.

Wisperphone

We used the whisperphone today! B was starting to loose concentraition and My Little Man needed my focus. B need to read directions about what to write and use a map.

I think the found it helpful and he thought burping in it was just the coolest thing ever.